According to the CDC and the National Sleep Foundation, more than 33% of Americans do not get enough sleep. That is absurd. AND, when it comes to our priorities, the pressure to always perform and handle “all the things” leads many of us to move sleep lower and lower on the priority list.Read More
We are always in a rush to talk about or “fix” things. The distress we feel for our own and others suffering mounts itself, like a tidal wave that crashes down upon us and the idea of leaving something “hanging out there” feels like an insurmountable task.
I’ve done this more times than I can count. I’ve found reasons to text or call someone because I couldn’t read how they felt at the end of a conversation. I have sat there, frantically refreshing my emails to see if a response has come in from a boss or coworker because the unknown of what they are thinking or feeling has shackled me to my anxiety. I have pushed my husband to stay up way later than either of us wanted because we have to “solve” the arbitrary “this” right now.
Why? Where does that sense of urgency come in? (read more)Read More
We have all done it. We took a day or two to send a response or to call someone back and immediately open with:
I am so sorry it took so long to get back to you!…”
Trust me, I get it. We feel bad that we didn’t respond or pick up the phone right when the recipient wanted us too. AND, every time you apologize, you perpetuate the notion that we are all at each others beck and call and that nothing “should have been” more important than responding to their electronic communication. Fuck that.Read More
I love talking about goals and think the implementation of “SMART Goals” is fantastic. This methodology gives you very practical and tangible application points to think about when setting your goals so that you can be successful in your endeavors. AND, with so many clients I work with, there is still a major disconnect between setting and completing the goals. Why?Read More
Remember that saying:
“Sticks and stones may break my back but words will never hurt me.”
I call BULLSHIT. What we say to each other matters. What we say to each other sticks with us, informing our core beliefs, fueling shame and leading us to constricting labels and judgments about ourselves that shape who we become.Read More
In one of my recent presentations on self-branding, an attendee raised the question about the true detriment to not living “authentically, besides not being happy”? They continued on to explain their thinking in that happiness isn’t always something people want to strive for and is in many ways fleeting. At first, to be perfectly honest, I was not prepared to answer the question so I turned it to the audience and gave them a little time to reflect on their own thoughts and reactions while I gave myself some time to sort through the depth of the question…Read More
Taking time for self care is not always something I have been great at. I struggle with that every-fixed sense of guilt and shame when I am not doing and so I run myself ragged taking on all of the “things”. I’m sure many of you can relate - we forget to “be” and focus on the “do” and the “go”. But at what cost?Read More
I spent years wondering who my dad was. An only child to a single mom, I always wondered what it would be like to truly answer the question, “What would your parents think?” or “What’s your dad like?”. I got good at evasion - giving just enough of an answer people never really knew that secretly I longed for the answer of what he would think. What would he have done if he knew about me? Would he have cared? And would I be different?Read More