What makes it so difficult? Honestly, I know I say it so much, but SHAME. Shame threatens our connection to others & the idea of being "right" often correlates with a sense of pride and value we attribute to greater belonging or value added to others. Sure, we can all sit here and say it isn't true AND, in the moment, in can be so hard to let it go.Read More
“You make it really say for people to forget about you.”
I remember the moment my, now husband, said those words to me. Too many nights had passed where I had talked about this feeling of emptiness it seemed was innately present in me where he finally felt a drive to say what I could tell had been on his mind for months.Read More
We are always in a rush to talk about or “fix” things. The distress we feel for our own and others suffering mounts itself, like a tidal wave that crashes down upon us and the idea of leaving something “hanging out there” feels like an insurmountable task.
I’ve done this more times than I can count. I’ve found reasons to text or call someone because I couldn’t read how they felt at the end of a conversation. I have sat there, frantically refreshing my emails to see if a response has come in from a boss or coworker because the unknown of what they are thinking or feeling has shackled me to my anxiety. I have pushed my husband to stay up way later than either of us wanted because we have to “solve” the arbitrary “this” right now.
Why? Where does that sense of urgency come in? (read more)Read More
Remember that saying:
“Sticks and stones may break my back but words will never hurt me.”
I call BULLSHIT. What we say to each other matters. What we say to each other sticks with us, informing our core beliefs, fueling shame and leading us to constricting labels and judgments about ourselves that shape who we become.Read More
In one of my recent presentations on self-branding, an attendee raised the question about the true detriment to not living “authentically, besides not being happy”? They continued on to explain their thinking in that happiness isn’t always something people want to strive for and is in many ways fleeting. At first, to be perfectly honest, I was not prepared to answer the question so I turned it to the audience and gave them a little time to reflect on their own thoughts and reactions while I gave myself some time to sort through the depth of the question…Read More